Staying in the Conversation
February 27, 2005
No other evangelist takes more time with a story than does John. Matthew, Mark and Luke give us a narrative in a few verses. John routinely takes a whole chapter. Today’s Gospel of the Woman at the Well is a case in point. But one of the advantages of such lengthy narratives is that we can watch and detect development in the characters that are within them. In today’s story we see the Woman at the Well change. What begins as an encounter marked with suspicion and hostility, eventually reaches the acceptance of Jesus as Messiah and Lord.
What John is trying to do in these lengthy narratives is to reveal to us the circumstances in which we can expect to encounter Jesus. John prepares us to see in concrete circumstances the possibility of meeting the Risen Lord. In this story of the Woman at the Well, John tells us that we can expect to meet the Lord in conversation, especially in conversations with those who think differently than us. Opposition is certainly the context of this story. The narrative depends on us understanding that there was antipathy, suspicion, and hostility between Jews and Samaritans. Both culturally and religiously, they were groups opposed to one another. This is why Jesus’ request for a drink was such a brass move and why it would seem to have little chance of success. The ordinary Samaritan would have laughed and turned away from a thirsty Jew asking for a drink. The Samaritan woman in the gospel does laugh, but then she stays to listen and, in the conversation, she discovers a deeper truth.
This story tells us that it is when we enter into conversation with those who think differently from us, we can expect to meet Christ. It is hard to imagine a more relevant topic for our society. For, as commentators have noticed over the last year, America is a polarized nation. We are a nation divided into distinct and clear camps. There are red states and blue states, Democrats and Republicans. We are divided over the role of religion in politics, over our involvement in the war. We are in disagreement over the future of Social Security. We do not agree about gay marriage or over the norms for family life. This Gospel tells us that, instead of withdrawing and remaining only in our own thoughts and convictions, we should reach out to those who think differently. We should talk and listen, believing that in that conversation we can discover a deeper truth.
The story even points out what we should be listening for. It tells us that we should listen for common threads of our humanity, for failures, for our highest ideals.
The conversation between Jesus and the woman begins with a conversation about the basics of life, about water. Jesus and the woman have a different understanding of what water is but they are in agreement on the common thirst to drink. This common understanding moves their conversation forward. When we discuss with those who think differently from us, we should be looking for a common thirst, a common thread of our humanity that can unite us. Even if we do not agree, we can at least identify what we share.
The story also points to the importance of recognizing our failures. The woman is faced with and accepts her disastrous past, her multiple failed marriages. In this honesty of her failure, a step is taken towards the truth. In the same way, when we talk with others who have a different point of view, any honesty on either side cannot help but lead us forward. Admitting that we have weaknesses, that we are imperfect, opens our mind to listen for the possible truth in another’s position.
Finally, the woman and Jesus end up speaking about religion, about their highest ideals. In discussing the most important beliefs, they are able to move beyond the smaller issues. They move beyond where worship should take place and agree on the principle of worshipping in spirit and in truth. In the same way, when we discuss with those who have a different point of view, we will often be more successful if we can engage with them around our highest ideals rather than being caught up in the details of how to achieve them. If we can find a commonality on the good we hope to achieve, we may be able to resolve the strategies which divide us.
The story of the Woman at the Well tells us that we can expect to find Jesus in dialogue with others, especially with others who think differently. It is not a naïve story, imagining that once we begin to talk all obstacles will disappear. But it does tell us that if we are willing to listen, looking for common threads of our humanity, the reality of failure, and the power of our highest ideals, we can make progress. We will probably not end up thinking the same way. But if we open ourselves to the dialogue, we can discover a deeper truth and find Christ in the interaction. There are many places we can find Jesus. Today’s Gospel reminds us that we can find Him in conversation, in dialogue with one another. If that is true, we must not hold ourselves back or shut ourselves off from interaction with those who think differently. It is only by staying in the conversation, that we can hope to encounter the Risen Lord.
February 24, 2008
A man was flying his private plane and was forced to make a crash landing out west in the middle of nowhere. Although he was able to parachute to safety, he found himself without any means of communication or provisions. His only option was to walk to civilization. He walked for hours, and after awhile he was unable to even stand on his feet. So he started to crawl across the desolate terrain. Then he ran into a necktie salesman. The salesman said to him, “Good morning! Would you like to buy one of my beautiful new neckties?” The man said, “Are you out of your mind? I’m dying here of thirst; I don’t need a necktie!” So the salesman shrugged his shoulders and went away. The man continued to crawl across the ground knowing that if he did not find something to drink soon, he would die. As he crawled to the top of the hill he saw an unbelievable sight. There down below him was a posh martini club, in the middle of nowhere, with neon signs and a big parking lot filled with cars. Quickly he crawled up to the doorman and said, “Please, I’m dying of thirst. I need something to drink” “Sorry, sir,” the doorman said, “gentlemen are not admitted without a necktie.”
Now who would have imagined that survival depended on a necktie? But such an improbable connection was the experience of the Samaritan woman in today’s gospel. As she approached the well to draw water, she saw a man sitting there. She recognized that he was a Jew. There was no love lost between Jews and Samaritans. So she probably said to herself, “The last thing I need in the middle of a busy day is to deal with one of those people.” As the woman approached the man there was little expectation that the encounter would be l any other than a nuisance. Little did she think that this meeting at the well would change her life. But it did. As they talked together about water and worship, she came to see that this Jew was the Messiah, the one she had been waiting for her whole life long. What began as an unpromising encounter, turned out not only to be a blessing, but indeed the way to her salvation.
God can be present in any person and in any circumstance. Even in those circumstances which at first seem quite unpromising. It is the point of the story of the Samaritan woman to assert that truth. Therefore the story asks us: How often do we miss the presence of God because we presume that God cannot be present in this person or in this situation? How often do we rush by people and opportunities because we are convinced that we have something to do which is much more important? How often do we brush people aside because we have already prejudged that they have nothing to offer us? How often do we push forward toward our goal or agenda and in the process leave Christ behind?
The story of the Samaritan woman does not guarantee us that we will find Christ in every place. But it tells us that we will find Christ more often, if we look for Christ in every place, if we live our lives with expectation that we about to meet the Lord. If we live with that expectation, it changes the way we approach every situation. We begin to act less out of duty or responsibility and more out of the anticipation of being blessed. Parents begin to help their children with homework, not simply because that is a parent’s responsibility, but because they believe that in such an encounter Christ could teach them something, Christ could touch their hearts. Co-workers begin to listen and be attentive to another not simply to help another but out of the belief that in such an encounter Christ could help them, Christ could show them something about themselves. We begin to address a problem in our family or a misunderstanding in our marriage, not simply because that problem needs to be addressed, but also because we expect that in such an encounter Christ could bless us—Christ could give us reason to be thankful.
Christians do not dismiss any person or opportunity, because they know that Christ can be present anywhere. As preposterous as it might seem to have survival depend on a necktie, or salvation depend on speaking to an enemy at a well, we believe that such connections are possible. We believe that in the course of an ordinary day, God is always capable of touching our hearts. We believe that in the most unpromising situations, we can encounter the Savior of the World.
The Hungry Heart
March 27, 2011
John 4: 5-42
Bruce Springsteen begins one of his songs, “Everybody has a hungry heart.” It is his way of saying that all of us want something in our life, something we need, something we desire. Perhaps we want someone to love, someone with whom we can share our life and build a family. Perhaps we want to play for the NFL. Maybe we want to be a doctor, a physician, or an entrepreneur within our own community. Perhaps we want to be respected in the eyes of others and admired in the eyes of our peers. Each one of us longs for something: that our spouse would love us differently, that our friends would treat us with more mutuality and respect, that we could make a lot of money and become a millionaire. Our hearts are hungry. It is the way that we are. It is a part of the human condition.
Now, at first glance this hunger in our heart can seem like a kind of selfishness, simply catering to our own desires. But today’s Gospel presents such hunger in a very different perspective. It tells us that God has placed the hunger in our hearts for a purpose.
The Samaritan woman in today’s gospel comes to the well because she wants water. She wants water which she can drink and with which she can clean and cook. But when she comes to the well for that water, she meets Jesus. There she listens to him as he talks about a living water that will lead to salvation. The woman does not come to the well to find Christ’s water, she comes to find the water that is in the well. But her thirst for that water leads her to consider and ultimately to accept the water that Jesus offers. A natural water leads her to an eternal water. A physical thirst leads her to a drink beyond her imagining.
Because God has put a hunger and thirst in our life, our desire to satisfy that hunger and thirst becomes a spiritual journey. As we reach out for the things that we want, we are not being selfish. We are following a way to God. Nothing will ultimately satisfy us other than God alone. Other things in our life might for a time distract us or amuse us, but only the knowledge of God’s love and a life lived according to God’s word will ultimately make us happy. St. Augustine, one of the great theologians of the Church, spoke eloquently on this topic. He said, “Oh God, you have created us for yourself, and our hearts are restless till they rest in you.” Ronald Rolheiser, a great spiritual writer of our time, has described this hunger in our hearts as “a holy longing”—holy, because if we follow it, it will ultimately lead us to God.
Every good and natural thing that we reach out for is a limited good. As we confront the limited nature of the things we desire, they push us to seek the unlimited goodness who is God. Money will only keep us happy for so long. Then we will long for something else. Even the closest and most intimate human relationship has its down side. As we face the limits of relationships, we recognize that we want something more. It is gratifying to be successful in our work and in the eyes of others. But once we claim that success, our heart says, “Is that all there is?”
God has placed hunger in our hearts to lead us to eternal life. Therefore, go for the things you want, try to attain them, do not be deterred. Work as hard and as honestly as you can to make money. Love the people in your life as deeply as you can. Be the best teacher or accountant or NFL football player that you can be. But then do not be surprised if your heart is still hungry. The Samaritan woman looks out at us from today’s Gospel and says, “When you find the water you seek, you will want more. God has made us that way. The water you obtain is meant to lead you to the water that only Jesus can give.”
God Gives Us Time
March 23, 2014
John 4: 5-42
Jesus does in today’s gospel what he does so frequently throughout the scriptures. He reaches out to touch someone who is rejected and broken. Just as Jesus gave sight to the blind Bartemaeus or welcomed the disdained Zaccheus, Jesus reaches out in today’s gospel to make a Samaritan woman whole. He who announces that God is the good shepherd who searches for the lost sheep recognizes this woman as one of his flock. Now there are several indications in the gospel that reveal the brokenness of the Samaritan woman. There is the obvious discussion about her multiple failed marriages. But there is also the detail that she comes to draw water at the well at noon. The usual time to draw water was in the morning before the sun becomes too hot. At that time all the women of the town would come together in a group, sharing stories about their lives as they drew water for their families. It seems that this woman whom Jesus meets was not welcome in their company. She was an outcast. She came to the well alone.
When she comes, broken and rejected, she finds the man who would heal her. But what is important about this story is the manner in which Jesus exercises his ministry. In this story, Jesus takes time to heal the Samaritan woman. So often in the gospels Jesus’ miracles seem to happen in a flash. He runs across someone in need and suddenly the blind can see, and the lame can walk, and the deaf can hear. But in today’s gospel, Jesus sits with this woman at the well and enters into an extended conversation with her about water, about her marriages, about worship, and about the Messiah. In that conversation, over time, this woman begins to change, from someone who is suspicious to someone who trusts, from a doubter to a believer, from an outcast to a disciple.
You and I need to appreciate this patient method of our healing God. All of us have something in our lives that we want to change, a brokenness that we want to heal. It might be a habit of sin that keeps recurring, a prejudice we cannot erase, a hurt we cannot forgive, or a fear we cannot overcome. When we recognize that fault, we want to fix it at once. And when we try and fail or when we think we have succeeded and it comes back again, it is easy to become discouraged. This gospel tells us that God is willing to give us time. It reminds us that healing does not always happen suddenly. God is willing to sit with us, talk with us, and lead us step by step to life. That process might take a few days or a few years. But there is always hope as long as we stay in the conversation.
Our God is committed to healing us. Our God desires to take our brokenness and make it whole. But the Samaritan woman reminds us that such change seldom happens in an instant. This is why Jesus is willing to sit with us in the noonday heat and to talk to us as long as it takes, leading our lives to the truth, guiding our hearts until they rest in him.
Re-membering Our Lives
March 19, 2017
Susan’s mother was eighty-one years old and suffering from dementia. She did an admirable job of faking it, compensating for her lack of memory with skill and grace. But Susan knew that it was just a matter of time before her mother would no longer recognize her. This happened soon after the first of the year when her mother came over to Susan’s house for dinner. In the course of the meal she turned to Susan and said “My dear, could you remind me how we met?” Taken aback Susan said, “Mom, you gave birth to me.” “Well”, said her mother trying to recover, “If I gave birth to you, why didn’t I raise you?” “You did raise me Mother, and you raised me very well.” With that Susan got up to hide her distress. She went into the kitchen. Her mother followed her. Taking her hand she said to Susan, “Don’t cry my dear, I’m getting old. I know that I should remember who you are, but somehow that has slipped from my mind. But even though I do not know your name, I do know that I love you, and I believe you love me in return. Am I right?” Susan said, “I love you Mom with all of my heart.” “Good” her mother said, “Good. If you love me then do this for me. Tell me everything. I want to know every detail: where you were born, where you went to high school and college, what you do for a living, did you ever marry? do you have children? Come back with me to the table, sit down next to me, and tell me all of it.” And that’s what the two of them did.
That which is broken can be healed, if we believe that someone cares. Our lives can be re-membered, if we know that we are loved. This is what happens to the Samaritan woman in today’s gospel. She meets Jesus at a well, and they begin to talk. In that conversation she changes. But the reason she changes is important: she has come to know that Jesus accepts her as the person she is, and just as she is.
Jesus and the woman talk about many things. They talk about living water, Jacob’s well, and true worship. But when she goes back to tell her neighbors what has happened to her, she mentions none of those weighty matters. What she says is, “Come and see a man who told me everything I have done.” Her life has been changed not by theology or instruction, but because her story has been remembered by someone who accepted her without judgment. She has become a new woman not only because Jesus revealed himself to her, but because Jesus revealed her to herself. Despite her sins and mistakes, she now understands that she is a beloved daughter of God.
Today’s gospel invites you and me to imitate the Samaritan woman, to allow our brokenness to be healed by the power of God’s love. The gospel invites us to place before the Lord all of our mistakes, everyone we have hurt, all the dreams we have betrayed, all the disappointments we cannot forget, and listen as Jesus covers each one with his forgiveness. The gospel invites us to see our own story re-membered through Christ’s eyes, until all that remains is a son or a daughter who has been saved by God’s grace. And if we dare to allow Jesus to love us so, we like the Samaritan woman will be able to leave our water jar at the well, because we will no longer need to draw up that which never satisfies. We will carry in our hearts the “living water” of God’s forgiveness and love.
March 15, 2020
John 4: 5-42
The Samaritan woman who meets Jesus at the well in today’s gospel has no idea of who he is. From her perspective he is merely a wondering Jew looking for a drink. So when Jesus suggests to her that he can give her living water, she comes up with the most preposterous comparison she can think of. She says, “Surely you are not greater than our father, Jacob, who gave us this cistern and who drank from it himself with his children and his flocks.” “There,” she thought, “that certainly put him in his place.” He couldn’t presume to be greater than the patriarch, Jacob, the father of the twelve tribes of Israel. But the irony of this story is that Jesus is greater, greater than Jacob, greater than anyone the Samaritan woman could imagine.
That is something we should remember as we face this coronavirus pandemic. As you know this is the most serious health problem that we have had to face as a society in our lifetimes. Public meetings have been canceled. We still gather for Mass, but it is likely that by next weekend we will not. We are just beginning to face this crisis. It will go on for months. As we do face what lies ahead, it is important that we do so from a perspective of faith.
The coronavirus has no known cure. In that sense it is greater than us. It is greater than our leaders, greater than our medical professionals. But is not greater than Jesus. God continues to be active and present in our world, and as always God stands with us to give us the strength and wisdom for whatever we need to face. Now the perspective of faith does not make us immune from this virus, and it certainly does not dispense us from following the directives given to us by our leaders. As a matter of fact, as a people of faith we should be doubly attentive to see that we wash our hands regularly, avoid public gatherings. In doing so we are showing charity to others. We should also think of those isolated by this crisis such as a shut-in in our neighborhood who might need food or medicine. We should think of those who are frightened by the prospects to come and be in contact with them by phone to give support.
And, of course, we should pray. We should pray for those who have the virus, that others would not contract the virus, for our political leaders, and for our health care professionals. And I would suggest to you a particular way we should pray. You know that those in the health community are anxious to see that, when we wash our hands, we wash for 20 seconds. So the advice you often hear that you should sing Happy Birthday as you wash your hands and not stop washing until the song is done. I suggest you replace Happy Birthday with the Lord’s Prayer. It also lasts 20 seconds so it will accomplish the same cleansing effect. But it also will be a way to pray for all those affected by this crisis.
You and I face a crisis of historic proportions, but God is greater than the coronavirus. So let us draw on God’s wisdom and God’s strength to support one another until this virus is defeated.